Why is it so difficult to be happy? I mean, TRULY happy.
Is it because I am looking at things in a wrong perspective?
Is it because I have been living as a green-eyed monster?
Is it because I desire too much?
What is your favorite color?
B. S. Pears: Filipino…
You are not angry?
I am just a maid.
That’s what you do. Not who you are.
Thank You LORD for putting a smile on my face. Thank You for surrounding me with wonderful people. I know this phase of my life won’t be easy but I believe that as soon as I get through this ( which I will through Your help), I’ll be a much better person.
"3 WAYS TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART: METHOD 1"
Going through heartbreak can feel like being underwater when you need to breathe. We build our lives with someone we trust and care for, and then, in the blink of an eye, it’s all gone. This can leave people with sorrow, anger, and some serious questions — about ourselves and the future. If you’re dealing with heartbreak and want to heal, try these suggestions to find the new you.
Give yourself some me time. You’ve probably been in a relationship for a while, or maybe you’ve been thinking about that person non-stop for months. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone falls down. It’s how you get back up that defines you.
- Take a weekend to do whatever it is you love most. Whether it’s surfing, hiking, cooking, or simply being around your friends, use the opportunity to surround yourself with happy people and do the things that make you happy.
- Start a journal to record how you feel. Writing things down can be a powerful release. It’s called “catharsis,” where you purify your mind through expression. Write about whatever you want to write about. You’ll feel a lot better after you do.
- Don’t be afraid to feel sad. It’s normal to feel sad. Don’t feel inferior or stupid if you cry or get upset — these things are normal. Going through grief is just another step along the path to recovery. Let yourself grieve.
Remove all the memories of the person from your everyday life. You’re not trying to pretend like the person never existed, just temporarily forget how much they meant to you and how they broke your heart.
- Go through your room and remove all pictures of, letters from, references to the person you’re trying to stop obsessing over. If you have a journal in which you write about the person, begin a completely new one. It’s a symbolic new beginning, but an important one.
- Removing is different from destroying. Don’t burn or destroy any objects associated with the person, unless you’re sure that you never want them to be any part of your life in the future. When you’re old and completely in love with someone who loves you just as much back, the memories will be a record of all that you went through to get to where you are now.
3Disconnect the person from all the social networks you use. Nowadays, we have our regular lives and our online lives. Unsubscribe from the person on Facebook, unfollow them on Twitter, and work so that your online network doesn’t remind you of the person who broke your heart.
- If you feel like writing them, create a fake email account (for example, a Gmail account) and send the emails to that account. That way you can put all your hurt and pain into words and get it off your chest, but there is no chance your ex will actually see it.
- If you go to school with the person, avoid the person as much as possible. Don’t sit with them at lunch; don’t participate in the same voluntary projects. Take the classes that you finally want to take. As much as possible, make yourself scarce when that person is around.
- Don’t put yourself in situations where you could bump into one another. You know what places the person goes to because you used to shared love. If the person loves going to the gym early Saturday, only go during the weekday. If the person loves going to the local farmer’s market, try to go really late or early if you have to go. (Best would be to avoid altogether.)
- Be courteous if/when you bump into the person. There’s no use being mean, angry, boastful if you run into the person. Say “hi” the way you would to a friend, have a short, impersonal chat, and say goodbye. The best payback that you can give the other person is to live a full, happy, meaningful life without them.
- Smile as much as possible. It’ll help you feel better and look great. Watch funny movies, read funny books, or hang with funny friends.
"HOW TO BE STRONG AFTER A BREAKUP"
Never ever run back to them or call them all the time. You can just never let go of that special guy/girl that taught you how to love. When you guys break up, then it happens for a reason. Don’t keep calling him/her and talking to them like nothing happened or try to make them love you again. It’s not going to work out. It’ll just make you seem weak and clingy.
It’s okay to cry at night. For the first few weeks, it’s going to be a long and lonely journey. So it’s OK to cry. Cry your heart out for the matter of fact. You are going to stop crying in the end because you’ll get sick of it and realize that it’s a temporary phase. Listen to sad love songs. It’ll make you feel better and you’ll realize that you can relate to them even more after a breakup. Get it all out and then deal with it.
Remain positive. Just because he/she broke up with you or doesn’t want you back doesn’t mean that you’re “worthless”. There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. Smile and laugh. Surround yourself with friends and people who care. Not only will you feel better, your ex will notice how happy you are and maybe regret rejecting you.
Lift your head up high and move on. Don’t let one relationship drag you down even though it was the best one you ever had. There will be plenty more and it’s his/her loss. You are too good for them anyway. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that you need someone who will treat you right. Just be strong and forget about your ex.
Don’t try to fling or have special relationships with your ex. It never ends up right when you just go back into that cycle. Yes, “that” cycle. Where you guys break up then make up then act all cute and happy but in the end, you’ll just be heartbroken and cry. Yes … that cycle. Relationships end for many reasons.
Consult a friend if you feel lame or played. When your ex plays around with your heart when he/she knows that you still want them, that’s when you definitely know that he/she is not for you. It’s OK to feel this way, completely normal. Don’t hold your feelings in, talk to a friend and cry. Let them comfort you and let yourself vent your feelings. You’ll definitely feel better.
Shop, exercise and socialize. It’ll make you feel better to buy new outfits so you canlook even more attractive. Not only will it boost your confidence, it will also boost yourself-esteem. Looking good will make you feel good. Exercise is also a good way to vent your frustration and pain. Socializing with others would keep you distracted from your ex, bolster your self-esteem, and help you get over your ex. When you are occupied with other people, you’ll think, “Hey! Being single isn’t bad. I get to make new friends and have more time to myself”. Flirt and mingle!
Whenever you miss him/her try to engage yourself or take a nap it refreshes your mind
Don’t try to work things out with your ex you will just make them think that you still want them and that they have your heart.
It’s okay to start liking other people after a couple of months, meaning you can’t wait for your ex forever. Recover and then get out there again.
Give it time; you are heart broken now, but just wait and you will recover be happy and you’ll see you forget about your ex.